Why don’t we dream anymore? Why is it that as we get older, the ones who dream are called impractical and told to get a job like the rest of us? Where is our childlike excitement about being a firefighter, an astronaut, a racecar driver? Where does it go? Why does it slip away?
There are a few reasons. One, we limit ourselves, and then find ourselves limiting others. As a parent of young children, and also in growing up with 5 siblings, I’ve observed that when a young child says “I am a racecar driver,” or “I’m a football player,” people usually react with “You are? That is so cool! Show me how you do that.” But as children get older, the reactions of others change based on how they have limited themselves. The world starts expecting them to begin “living life,” but doesn’t teach children and young adults the skills of planning so that they can actually achieve the dreams that they have. Planning is key to getting somewhere big. And deep down, we feel that since we never became an NFL player, or made it as singer from our high school band, that those dreams in others are impractical and young people should just get a job and be practical. We likely resent the fact that things we dreamed of doing seemed out of reach, and so in a way, we sabotage the dreams of others in the name of practicality. We don’t allow them to dream because we did not achieve the things we dreamed about. Or our dreams changed and we took another direction, but it still isn’t what we wanted from life. As parents and adults, we need to help our children and young people around us pursue their dreams and put in the effort needed to get there. Not limit them by our own expectations, resentment, or inability to see beyond our own horizon, to see them becoming more than we are.
So what is the second problem and how can we overcome it, or help others to do the same? Lack of planning. A dream without a plan becomes an unfulfilled wish. A dream with a plan becomes a lifelong career/passion. Obviously, coaching pro sports, playing pro sports, going to outer space, climbing the tallest mountain, and being a big name singer are all real jobs because there are a lot of people doing them.
”Timing, perseverance, and ten years of trying will eventually make you look like an overnight success.” ~ Biz Stone.
What do these people who are “living the dream” have in common? They had someone at some point who saw a talent, fueled a dream, and encouraged them to make a plan and put in a lot of hard work to realize their passions. Talent without a plan gets you nothing but frustration. So how do you plan to do these things that seem like they are unachievable? Make a plan. What is a good place to start? Figure out how someone else got where you want to be, and do what they did. It almost seems too simple. But really that is all there is to it. It is not easy, but it is simple.
This is the third reason. Achieving your dreams is hard work and may even take years of not seeing the results you are hoping for. But there are ways to see progress that can help. Look backwards. Are you farther ahead than you were six months ago? See how much effort you are putting in. Are you doing the work, or pretending to do the work? And probably the most important, are you doing the right things. If trying to be a bodybuilder and you are eating like a cross country runner, you may not achieve the results you are hoping for. You have to do the things that will make a difference to what you are trying to achieve. If you don’t know what that looks like, look at someone doing the same thing you want to do, and simply follow their example. It really works!
The answer to why we don’t dream is a simple one. We lose hope. We lose hope because we lose faith that God made us for greatness! And this is often lost because of people not encouraging us. BE encouraged! BE an encourager! BE the awesome God made you for, and work to live your dreams!
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